Barbie Layton was bullied when she was younger. This is her story and she is resilient. 


About the Guest: 

Barbie Layton is an International Best You speaker going from side to the Main stage in 6 months based on fan feedback and 25 years of speaking engagements! She earned an M.A In spiritual psychology from the world famous University of Santa Monica and participated in the  Cannes film festival winning documentary as a counselor to women serving life sentences in Chowchilla, California on “The Prison Project” , based on Viktor Frankl’s work. She helps CEO’s and individuals alike reanimate their dreams, fall in love with themselves, and become the VIP of their own lives with powerful one of a kind intuitive Soulprint energy clearings that have manifested miracles in her clients’ lives. She will be featured in USA Today, and will be in the upcoming second edition of the international bestselling  book “Women Gone Wild”. She was just named as a Los Angeles Tribune Lifestyle and Personal Growth Columnist and will be a speaker at the Think and Grow Rich World Tour sponsored by the Napoleon Hill Foundation. 

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Barbie Layton is a busy up and coming force of nature that has many projects coming up in 2022! First off, a TV channel called “You Are Amazing” on The Best You Platform where she interviews world thought leaders and has positive global content to bring about a kindness revolution that put her on the map. She also has a channel on Rhonda Swan’s Wild Network and will be in the second edition of the international bestseller “Women Gone Wild”. She was nominated for the inaugural Tony Hsieh Award and is a member of Keith Ferrazzi’s Founder’s Group. She will be in Dr. John DeMartini’s “Breakthrough” documentary in 2022, will be speaking in person in Miami in September at “The Love Event” , and will be featured in USA Today as a Top 10 Female Conscious  Leaders to Watch in 2022 with Meghan Markel, Forbes, and other magazines. She is also a leader in Ken Honda’s Arigato Community, a member of the Los Angeles Tribune VIP group, and is a recent graduate of Vishen Lakhiani’s exclusive MindValley Premium Coaching that was one of a kind and no longer exists, and a published author on multiple platforms. She is also a co-founder of The Infinity Life, which helps people clear their core wounds. She was just designated a Los Angeles Tribune Magazine Lifestyle and Personal Growth Columnist. She is a super-connector and is working with charities and NGO’s like Targetaid to tackle the world’s biggest problems and finding solutions by being a heart -centered conscious entrepreneur. She was just featured on the “Ignite Your Essence” TV show for the Los Angeles Tribune TV network. Stay tuned for great things to come! and The Infinity Life – The Infinity Life and

Soon to come; and Appearances/ Shows: 

Regular weekly guest on The Alchemy Experience podcast 2021-present 

Melody Lee podcast 2021

Charissa Sims podcast 2021

Mindvalley Tribe Show 2022

Mind Acceleration Summit 2021 

Tony Hsieh Award Ceremony December 2021  

Already Recorded and close to release: 

“Ignite Your Essence” Los Angeles Tribune TV show 2022

The Rhonda Swan Podcast 2022 

Nina Maglic podcast 2022

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Blair Kaplan Venables is an expert in social media marketing and the president of Blair Kaplan Communications, a British Columbia-based PR agency. She brings fifteen years of experience to her clients which include global wellness, entertainment and lifestyle brands. As a pioneer in the industry, she has helped her customers grow their followers into the tens of thousands in just one month, win integrative marketing awards, launch their businesses and more. Yahoo! listed Blair as a top ten social media expert to watch in 2021. She has spoken on national stages and her expertise has been featured in media outlets including Forbes, CBC Radio, Entrepreneur and Thrive Global. Blair is also the #1 bestselling author of Pulsing Through My Veins: Raw and Real Stories from an Entrepreneur and co-host of the Dissecting Success podcast. When she’s not working on the board for her local chamber of commerce, you can find Blair growing the “The Resilience Project,” an online community where users share their stories of overcoming life’s most difficult moments.

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Blair Kaplan Venables:

Hello friends, welcome to radical resilience, a weekly show where I lead Kaplan Venables have inspirational conversations with people who have survived life's most challenging times. We all have the ability to be resilient and bounce forward from a difficult experience. And these conversations prove just that, get ready to dive into these life changing moments while strengthening your resilience muscle and getting raw and real.

Blair Kaplan Venables:

Hello, hello, it's Blair Kaplan Venables here and you're listening to another episode of radical resilience. I am here with someone that I am so grateful for. We have floated around in the same circles and landed in the same space at the same time. And it's my friend Barbie. Barbie Leighton. She's an international best use speaker going from side to the main stage in six months based on fan feedback, and 25 years of speaking engagements. She earned a BA she earned an MA in spiritual psychology from the world famous University of Santa Monica and participated in the Cannes Film Festival winning documentary as a counselor to women serving life sentences and Chowchilla California on the Prison Project. This was based on Victor Frankel's work and I love that Victor Frankel's work, I think it's you know, as a Jewish person, really important work that he's done. She helps CEOs and individuals alike re animate their dreams fall in love with themselves and become the VIP of their own lives with powerful one of a kind, intuitive soul print energy clearings that have manifested miracles in her clients. She'll be featured in USA Today and will be in the upcoming second edition of the International best selling book woman Gone Wild, which I'm also a part of, and she was just named as Los Angeles Tribune lifestyle and personal growth columnist. And she's just, she's just like Mary Poppins. It's the bag full of goodies. I love it. And she's gonna be a speaker at the Think and Grow Rich World Tour sponsored by the Napoleon Hill Foundation. I am so honored to call this lady Barbie, my friend, my soul sister, and she's here with us today. Hey, Barbie. Hi Blair. Oh,

Barbie Layton:conscious leaders to watch in:Blair Kaplan Venables:bie for when I got engaged in:Barbie Layton:

One of the things that I kind of realized has come forward is that I'm supposed to be in, or I find all of the video release forms for it. So it's, uh, I guess, in process, but I'm going to be in Dr. John Demartini. His documentary about his breakthrough experience coming up in the next few months was postponed due to COVID. But I was really trying to think about, you know, really what, what is my message in the sense of where this will be an international film festivals and their award winning who they work with Jack Canfield and his director, couple from Poland, they're absolutely amazing. But it's still I was thinking to myself, like, what exactly is it that I think has made me so resilient. And what I found was the fact that, you know, when I look back on my story, I don't really like to talk a lot about the trauma because I always want to look at people, especially my clients about like, okay, all this stuff happened to you before, but now what, but there is a certain acknowledgement of the trauma that you've had in the past and where other people have gone through, and they know that there's a way out on the other side, that it is really helpful for people. So just to start off with that, for me,

Barbie Layton:

I was one of those really precocious advanced kind of gifted kids, possibly, you know, even maybe, like non diagnosed Asperger's of where I just had so much knowledge, I was like one of those young Sheldon type kids where it's like, I knew all these things, but it was still the awkwardness of not needing to correct people if they spoke wrong, or they said it wrong, or whatever else. Because you don't know you're, you're a little kid, you know, you have no idea. I'm walking into, you know, kindergarten, you know, at five years old, and already been reading chapter books and stuff like that. I didn't mean to make anybody feel stupid, who didn't know how to read. But by the same token, I didn't know that anybody didn't know how to read. So it was like this, really, you know, like, my whole life was just like, you know, all your giftedness you're so fabulous until you're like four years old or so. And then five o'clock, five years old, you're like, you know, they're doing C Dick run, and you're just going like, Okay, what is happening, and then they want you to skip all these grades, and, you know, just became kind of this big, huge drama. But the bullying for me, was pretty much about from kindergarten to 10th grade. And I mean, I don't mean like the kind of things where people talk about microaggressions. Now, I mean, being spit on being, you know, physically bullied, scream, not, you know, the 30 minute ride to school, and back was the ride from hell. And it's still, in those days, it was the boys will be boys, and it's fine. And, you know, it kid tripped me in fifth grade and sprained my wrist. And his parents wouldn't acknowledge it, there's just a lot of things where it's always seems like in the small schools that people will always pick one person. And that's something that's in the Torres talks about the scapegoat. It's not one particular person, where it's like anything goes and you can just totally treat that person however you want, because it's the acceptable person that's taking everybody's crap off. So that unfortunately, was me. But it was always my intelligence, that was something that they couldn't ever take away from me. So you know, I was Spelling Bee winter in third grade with a K through eight school, which of course they didn't particularly care for, but I wasn't ever going to allow my light to be dimmed in that sense. But what I found was that, as an adult, in a traditional workplace, you know, that I worked for over 20 years, I really attracted that bullying pattern, again, from co workers, bosses that abused me, etc, etc. So I feel like in a lot of ways, one of my messages that I haven't really talked a lot about, but it's just been coming forward for me is the toxicity in the workplace that people have and this acceptability of where it's like, we've legalized, you know, all these things and said, We have anti discrimination. And we don't allow people to, you know, discriminate based on your sexual orientation, or handicap do this or that. But there's so many of these things that go on in the workplace, despite all these rules that are out there, because unless somebody decides to get the legal system involved, it doesn't stop. And it's this like, kind of gang mentality of where, you know, for me, I'm always focusing on my clients. I'm not trying to impress my co workers, and let's try to focus on how can I be best for my clients? My clients always just did really, really, really well. So I would end up outshining people, which again, they didn't like, it's like, why don't you just go away? Why don't you just stop talking? Why don't you just stop doing this, but I'm always trying to do my own personal best to be able to be a better version of myself. And a lot of people I think it's stuck in the status quo. So my feeling is that, like, for example, if I know about you through your social media, or something else, but I've never met you, and somebody had an opinion about you, Blair, and they said, Oh, Blair's like this. I think a lot of people are too lazy. They want to have the impression that they got from somebody else's opinion to that other person, and then basically put it on that person and just decide, okay, now and they're in a box, this is the label like, you know, well, this is Blair, but my personal feeling is that because I've been so misunderstood and mislabeled by people who never gave me a second chance to be able to evolve or change or anything else like that. I want to get to know each person individually and I will reserve my opinion about that person. Once I found out who they are. If they are the way somebody else says they are. That's one thing that I need to be able to make My own opinion about people and not be lazy, and do my own due diligence and finding out who people are. Because that's the exciting part. You know, I mean, you and I have just scratched the surface about getting to know each other. And there's a lot of things to discover. And that's the beautiful thing of human connection. But I realized that for myself, I still have this pattern of victim and, you know, bullied child and all this other kind of stuff that I really attracted. But now in this public speaking arena, and all these other things I'm doing in media. And having all these people love my message and what I'm doing because I'm not in that space any longer, I'm not attracting that same pattern. So that to me is a super important thing that that resilience, part of it is that I've been through a lot of this stuff. But I've come out the other side, and then I pivoted to something completely different because I didn't allow that to define me.

Blair Kaplan Venables:s of:Barbie Layton:

And it's like, even, you know, like in the mean, Girls movie, you know, they had that burn book. I don't know if you remember that? Oh, yes, I do. They banned those. And I will never forget that. You know, kind of as a joke, see, like, what you were talking about with having a different chance or, you know, like, you grew up with all the same people, and then you move to another place. And then you have this experience that was totally unfamiliar for you. And it's like, I had a similar thing of where I begged my parents, please transfer me to different schools, so I can have a fresh start. So I literally went to another school that was like, you know, almost close to an hour to you know, get on the bus. And that was a big ordeal to have to go there and to be transferred. But when I got to the school, all those popular kids in my old school were all on sports teams with the kids at the new school. So they already knew I was coming. I didn't even get a chance at the new school. So the burn book went around. And I thought this was an opportunity for me to be involved in socially and this is kind of in a burn book would be similar, you know, to social media back in those days. And so is this, you know, who do you think is this and who do you think is that and he would sign your name and that and then all these people decided to write all these horrible things about me in this burn book. And I wasn't of course even able to see who it was. But it was just so painful to know about, you know, to them. This was a joke. I don't even know if they even felt that way about it. They just thought that it was super funny. And that, you know, like, isn't this great? But as you know, there's kids with suits with like, you know, social media, things like that they end up committing suicide, they end up actually like deciding they can't cope on this because as you're saying the bullying isn't just like at school and after school, it's nonstop 24 hours a day of where people can do you know, I hate so and so pages and things like that. But I think this is also the opportunity to from a positive sense. That's why I love what you know Rhonda Swan and Diana Wentworth are doing in regards to starting a movement about being unconscious female because I think it's that one co elevation and CO colaboration of where we celebrate each other as women. Because it's that whole thing people say, oh, like, you know, if the world was run by women, it would be such a better place. Well, not if they're competitive and cutthroat and trying to be where it's a tear down. You know, a lot of women, I think, are in the scarcity mindset. And that wasn't she too beautiful, and who does she think she is, and so on, and so forth. And I had an interview on my show with Rachel Pringle, who's a model. And she's always been Dr. Gorgeous, and I had the, the fortunate ability to meet her on Thursday in person with her husband, it was phenomenal. But as a beautiful woman who has a traditional model, as a woman, she's always having to put other women at ease that she's not going to be a bit or she's not going to be this or that, whatever. And it's like, that must be completely exhausting to have to constantly have other people's projection thrown at you. But when you talk to her, she's such a deep and beautiful and purposeful human being and she loves other women wants to celebrate them. So that's where I'm appreciative in the sense that we're in the tribe that you and I are part of, and the women that we're discussing with, I mean, you know, we have, you know, Kelly Clarkson, and we have Paris Hilton and Donatella Versace and all these different women in mainstream media, who are resonating with the women's on wild concept because to them, they want to update their think there's nothing wrong with being beautiful, and presenting as successful and things like that. But even you and I getting to know Diana, Diana Wentworth is such a frickin I mean, she is a rock star, amazing human being I adore her, her soul just shines through turned 81 yesterday. But it's still all the projections that you hear these beautiful, successful, successful women have thrown on them, because people think and they assume that they're going to behave a particular way. But they're human just like everybody else. They're completely, you know, they put their pants on the exact same way that everybody else does. And I think having grown up in Malibu and seeing celebrities all day, every day who didn't have their you know, like, you'd see Pamela Anderson and Farrah Fawcett and Charlie Sheen, and just all these different people that just be popping around because that's what they live, but they weren't dressed up, they didn't have their makeup done. They didn't care like Pamela Anderson loves to wear sweaters, shorts, and Ugg boots with their hair in a bun. You know, it's just like, that's how she loves to run around. I know, she's a she's a former conduct for sure. But it's like, I think that the message to me is the fact that a lot of the bosses that I've had that I've been men, they've been a lot nicer than the women who are, it's like, and that's the part about where I think systemically, we have an opportunity for women to not have to feel like they have to compete in a scarcity mindset, but that we can all celebrate and be each other's cheerleaders, I think toxicity in the workplace would really, really shift because, you know, it doesn't need to be that there's a, you know, an employee of the month or an employee of the week or this person gets a raise, or this person doesn't. It's like, how do you celebrate your whole team? How do you celebrate all the people that contribute? And that's why I love like Tony Shea, it's like I got nominated for his award last year, because he's one of those guys that I mean, in his call center. He was bringing in misuses, he had 24 hour call center, one of the first people in the entire world of 24 hour call center. And the way he enticed his employees to come in, as they said, hey, I'll hire mysterious, they'll give you back rubs, during the time when you're on the phone, like two three in the morning? Well, you know, we'll bring in pizza, we'll do this, we'll find your superpower able to do that. And everybody wanted to work for him. Yeah. And he created a billion dollar industry with Zappos. So that's the part about where these happy workplaces are where people support their male and female, whatever you are, however, you know, whatever flag you fly, just celebrating other people, but finding those people that are going to be like minded as to the people that are going to be competitive, or want to tear you down. Because to me, I don't do tear down. I don't want to do tear down.

Blair Kaplan Venables:

Exactly, like why can't we all just be nice to each other? And what is this feeling in us if we feel like we need to power trip or be act as if we're above someone? And that condensation and like being an asshole? Like, why do people do that? And why can't we all just exist and be harmonious? And I've always actually always, you know, I've wondered that and, you know, it's, it's interesting, because some of like, I have a mix of clients, men, women, whatnot, but honestly, I, I've had some experiences where males have wanted to work with me. And the way they communicated with me was not good. Mm hmm. You know, I've had men double triple my age will no, not triple but like double my age sit down with me who want to just get to know what I do. So they can refer me business, who question everything that I do. And then they learn that I'm making more money than them and you know, they can't even look me in the eyes. Mm hmm. And it's just like, we don't we don't need to this isn't a game like, Oh, I'm here. To provide a service like the global Resilience Project is a service that can community. I'm a social media marketing expert and mentor. I'm here to help empower people to tell their stories. I am here to help people move through their challenges. And I'm not here to compete. I'm not here to compete and in the social media space, I don't believe I have competition. I think there's plenty of work to go around. I refer to other social media marketing experts, I celebrate people who would be deemed as my competitors. Because I believe the right people will land in my world, just like the right land in your world. Like we're now there's worlds. But then there's those people out there who don't get that who like, I was actually just telling the story of someone was getting a pedicure, actually, the girl I get a pedicure from is amazing. And we're talking about where do you go shopping, and we talked about winners, which in the States, I think is like TJ Maxx, but we're talking about winners. And I was saying, you know, in grade 11, I worked at winners, and my boss hated me because he was an older man, like I was in high school, he was like an adult male. And I spoke up for myself like I, I when something wasn't right, or I didn't like the way he spoke to me, like I shared that. And so he thought he was punishing me by always giving me fitting room shifts. But really like my job because it was during the day because I had like an interesting high school experience with like, my schedule. My job was to open packages, and like open the shipments and like put out the clothes. So I got first dibs on all the stuff that was coming in. So like, I loved it. And I was like he thought he was punishing me. But we're just talking about like the imbalance in power. And like, what can we do to mitigate that? And, you know, going back to the high school thing, Barbie, you know, any the people I mean, with social media now we know what people are up to. And I don't like to put my energy towards like, I don't all the people that were bullying me and not nice to me. I you know, one of them actually apologized to me, but I'm not connected to them on social media. I don't need to be in their sphere. I don't need them to be in mind. But I'm curious about you. Like, do you know anyone that really stood out to you that that was part of this experience for you? Do you know what they're up to now? Or does anyone apologize to you?

Barbie Layton:

Um, I did have one person, I think they probably had gone through a 12 step program. And they actually reached out to me and said, You know, I have children right now. And I realized that what we did to you was so awful. He was the one that pushed me down during dodgeball and fifth grade and sprained my almost broke my hands. And then I had a, I had a half cast with an ace bandage on it. And kids actually was slammed books on it in the bus, because they said it wasn't a real cast. So Oh, yeah, it was is. And that's why we're gonna talk about bullying today. You know, I, I don't like to play victim Olympics. But it was literally I mean, it was It was torture. And I literally asked the bus driver if I could sit in the front seat every single day. And she told me no. And then she told me that I was the problem that I created this horrible ride for her that she had to do this route, because I was awful. And I'm just like, you know, I'm sitting here pleading for Just Mercy for her to just sit let me sit in the front seat quietly, and, you know, didn't have any, didn't have any, you know, reprise from that either. But I think, you know, hearing that from him was a positive thing. Because as a parent, he saw it as a different light and realize that, you know, and apparently they're at somebody's wedding, and they all sat around and said, you know, oh, my God, we were absolutely horrible to her, which, you know, it was a, there was a certain just desserts about that. But I think that the thing that's important, especially for your guests to kind of, like, take it in, in a moment in sense of where it's like, sometimes it's the small town that you have to leave sometimes it's the environment in the sense of where if people won't give you an opportunity to when you continuously are allowing this treatment app and even if you have roots there, you know, I remember Bronski beat in the, in the 80s they had a you know, and they talked about coming out as gay and that they basically had this song called small town boy about like, where they needed to leave where they were so that they could be accepted for who they were. And I know that for myself as an exchange student, my junior year in high school, I went to Austria and I didn't speak the language and I really insisted on speaking German I got an award for you know, best you know, improvement in German is something I really still still pride and I'm very proud of myself for but the thing that was so cool about that Blair was that when I met all these different people in the high school, everybody loved me there. They all invited me to every party the you know, the poppers the preppies, but the you know, the heavy metal guys, whatever, I got invited to all the parties, everyone wanted me to be in their situation, I got to go to all these different festivals and things like that. So the very best part about that was that I realized it wasn't me. It was not me, the me that I was I went to a brand new place and went out of my pond. And I literally found oh my god, it really wasn't me. It's just the fact that these kids have known me for so long for so many years that they have literally never allowed me to evolve or change because a book goat in that environment and That's the part of where it's, that's the awareness I think is so important is the fact that it's that ugly duckling story. You're with all these different ducklings and you're going like why don't the ducklings like me? Why don't the ducklings like me, but you're a frickin swan. You need to go find swans. There's nothing wrong with the ducks. But it's still also the other part to me is also the fact that I have a lot of people who say, Well, you know, now that you're successful, I'm bet you that you're really, you know, hoping that you can kick sand in their eye and that you'd be so happy, whatever else and I said, Nope, I have no desire for revenge. I have no desire, I practice practice radical forgiveness, and the sense of where I send love back to them and say, you know, bless them Father, for they know, not what they do. It's like they did whatever they did, because that's what they thought they were gonna do. Karma is a bitch. That's all I have to say,

Blair Kaplan Venables:

well, you know, it's interesting, very, because like, I'm doing a lot of I'm on a spiritual awakening path. I'm at the beginning of my journey. And we talked about this offline before recording. And part of my part of my journey is really realizing when people act a certain way, it has nothing to do with me, it has everything to do with them. And when people trigger me or they say something, sometimes I you know, before would take it really personally, but now it's like, I look at them, I'm like, wow, that person must be really hurting. And I, you know, had a recent experience where I was making posts about, you know, some of the speaking engagements I've had and what I do for a living. And someone I've known my entire life came out of the woodworks at like a weird hour, like, the middle of the night, and was commenting, calling me a phony and telling me basically, everything I was saying was BS. And I immediately was like, it was weird, because like, Child's like, we've known each other our entire lives, and we just like, inter locked, you know, families. And I thought about that, instead of being upset about his words, my first reaction was, Wow, he must be hurting. Something I said, must be triggering him that he's going that deep into my social media, and he's commenting, and he's doing it at this hour. I feel really bad for him, like, I hope he's gonna be okay.

Barbie Layton:

And that's the compassion and the sense of where it's like, you know, the whole thing, like, I don't know exactly the quote, but it's that concept of where Buddha says, you know, it's like, having anger or like resentments against other people is like, you know, like holding a hot stone and expecting the other person to get burned. Because as you said, it's like, you're a nonfactor to the other person. They just go along, I think people act in self interest, and they do whatever is what is good for them in the moment. And that's just human nature. And you can't really go against that, but you're right. It's like, what, what propels or compulsive somebody to be able to think that I'm going to come after Blair, and just tell her that everything she's about is of this, that whatever it's like, what exactly is it in that person that really feels that but as you said, it's this whole, you know, compunction or this this compulsion to, to want to do this tear down because somehow I think in the moment, certain people feel like it makes them feel better. And you know, like for myself going through, you know, weight loss journey over time, etc, etc. It's like, you know, I went big, bodacious woman, you know, five foot nine, very curvy, etc. But I had to go through all these different iterations of, of my body, this, that whatever, to some people, I'm fat, other people, I'm curvy and beautiful. And so ultimately, the opinion that I have on myself has to be the most important one because I live in this body. And, you know, I've kind of, you know, reflected on with fashion and things like that. Every decade, there's a new body style that's hot, or in or whatever else, but yet, you have the same body your whole entire freakin life. You know what I mean? So it's like, you know, the hourglass was popular in the 50s. But then in the 60s, you have the Twinkies that came in that were like, thin with like, you know, no curves. And then I mean, every decade a different body style comes in, but it's like so what you need to be in style and and fashion for yourself and do whatever makes you happy. That's the that is the literally most important thing. And even something kind of like as frivolous as hair color and things like that. I was laughing because I dyed my hair blonde since I was 18 years old. It's like everyone, you know, blue eyes, and everyone's like, oh, you should be a blonde. And so I dyed it for years and years and years. It was until I got to my late 40s. I was like, You know what, I don't even know what hair color I even have. I don't even know my actual real hair color looks like I have no clue. So I let it grow out. And I haven't colored it for two and a half years. I mean, everyone's freaking out during the pandemic, because they didn't have any color for their roots. I was laughing because I have these, you know, these white strands in the front and people ask me like, Oh, where'd you get those done? And I'm like, Mother Nature gave them to me. Thank you.

Barbie Layton:n, Colonel Sanders, how to do:Blair Kaplan Venables:

Yes, and like when you're driven by passion. And the most amazing things are manifested in your life. And I think that's really beautiful. I was going to ask you for advice. This whole podcast is advice. You know, but I think what you said is really beautiful and that like cope keeps you going and you know you got through the bullying I got through the bullying you know, we've gotten through the hard times loss and grief and sadness and anger because we have found our passion we have hope. But bringing it back to the bullying piece like what advice do you have for someone who's maybe going through this or they're listening and their kid is getting bullied? What advice do you have?

Barbie Layton:

I think that one of the most important things is that your imagination something that no one can take away from and that's advice to people and they've said it's been really helpful you know some people the at being at home you know with alcoholic family members or you know like Christmases or Thanksgiving or Hanukkah or experiences that people have, you know, comfortable family situations. If you're in a quiet space either in your room, step into the restroom, you know, even if you're at school and someone is bullying you At school, step into the restroom and find your happy place, you need to find a happy place that when you're not stressed out, like my happy place is the US Virgin Islands honeymoon Island. I was there with my family of my mom's 70th birthday on the Disney Cruise and you're all sitting on a chaise lounge, eating a delicious Caribbean barbecue lunch, we just came come in on a pirate ship, we were snorkeling, the ocean was absolutely gorgeous. So just sitting there with all of us in this beautiful space with the sun shining, that's a happy place for me. So if I'm in a place where you know, you have this kind of extreme stuff happening, having a happy place within your mind that you can go to no matter what it could be Maui, it could be on the top of the Swiss Alps, it could be wherever, when you close your mind, or you close your eyes, and your mind allows you to go to that happy place for just a moment. And then you take some breaths, you have the opportunity, because the amygdala is challenged. You know, that's where a lot of times tapping is really good. I love the emotional freedom technique, because tapping allows you to be able to start going into the deeper breathing. Because the amygdala when you get fight or flight with those bullying experiences, your amygdala shuts you down because you think you have to run away from a saber toothed Tiger and your your breathing becomes really shallow. So physiologically, going into a happy place, even for like a minute, just closing your eyes and imagining yourself there. And then allow yourself to start breathing a little more deeply. I don't know if you remember the Adam Sandler movie Happy Gilmore. Yeah, you're at his happy place where you know, the girl was there, and she had beer, and then his grandma was there. And it's like, it's like, it sounds like a silly thing. But it's true if you have your imagination that you continue cultivating that almost all the people that I know who end up becoming successful and think about things, they stay in childlike wonder, and they suspend disbelief, because they're willing to look for miracles in our lives at age in place. And it's kind of sometimes you know, like, you have a bad hair day. And then the next day, it's Wednesday, and it's like, it's just another day, but it's like, Oh, my God today, it's awesome. And then the next day is like, Yeah, not so much. And then the next day is wow. And, you know, it's the whole kind of turning a corner. So I think for parents specifically, and they need to advocate for their children. But it's also, as you're talking about the resiliency factor does also mean that we have to allow people to have their experiences sometimes, because in some ways, I'm grateful for these extreme experiences, because I've been able to see the worst of the worst of human beings, but yet still keep my heart open. And love people despite that, because I know that my message can be out of hope to be able to inspire other people to go out there and live their best life, because I'm still a work in progress myself. And but I'm not giving up. I'm not just saying okay, well, this is what I got in life. So I'm just gonna have to be satisfied with it. And it is what it is. Those things that we've experienced, there's a message out there, and other people really, really need to hear that, you know, I went through this, but as a result, it made my heart even more open. It made me even more compassionate. It allowed me to practice radical forgiveness, and that resiliency of bouncing back. Most of the time, when you fortify something like when you go on a trampoline, your body basically gets fit, because it has to fortify itself. Once you go back into that weightlessness, and your body has to brace for the impact. Your muscles contract in the most beautiful way. And that tightens your skin up in a fantastic way. So like a little rebounder, or vibration plate, people get into great shape for that kind of stuff, because it really forces the muscle to come back even stronger than it was before.

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